Lunar Love (85)

“So, things you had on earth,” I say in understanding.

“Some people even throw in a jet plane for their ancestors. The sky’s the limit, depending on what you can afford to buy or have made.”

“Those paper offerings look so real,” Bennett observes.

“It’s how we take care of our ancestors. The items must be burned so they can make it to their final destination in the other world and be used by the recipient,” Auntie says.

Bennett and I listen closely, soaking in the tradition we’re about to witness. I’m surprised that he didn’t know about this custom, either. This bit of knowledge about him is oddly reassuring. We’re learning together.

“In the afterlife, you can give the deceased a life they never got to live,” Auntie adds. “It’s a way of providing comfort.”

“I’m relieved knowing that Pó Po’s next chapter is only just beginning, and that it’ll be a comfortable one,” I say. Part of me wonders if she’ll be reunited with Gōng Gong in the afterlife.

Auntie nods. “And then some. You want Gucci shoes but never had the ability to afford them here on earth? We can offer up a pair during the ceremony. Of course that’s an extreme example. First things first, we need to make sure Pó Po has the necessities.”

“That’s wild, but I also kind of love it,” I say, looking up at Bennett. I never thought there would be a nice way to move forward into death. When there are designer loafers involved, maybe the afterlife isn’t so bad.

“The point is to keep our family happy,” Auntie explains.

“Does this only happen at funerals?” I ask.

“This tradition is integrated into different holidays throughout the year, but also on birthdays and special occasions. It’s up to you,” she says, giving me a small smile before joining Mom and Uncle Rupert at the front. Together they move the various paper objects into the bucket. Somewhere among the pile of goods is my contribution of handwritten notes so that Pó Po would have my words to keep her company. I also decided to sneak in some copies of client profiles so she could do what she does best: matchmake.

I’m entranced by how intricate each item is, their bright colors and careful construction on the verge of being…set on fire.

“This is how we stay connected,” I say out loud to myself. Realization dawns that this is my way back to Pó Po. She’s only a fire away.

Up front, Nina points out various objects. “A yacht?” she asks. “Does Pó Po even know how to operate a boat?”

“That’s what the ship captain is for,” Auntie clarifies. “We can’t forget to add a wine cellar and a sommelier. She may not have had those luxuries in this life, but in the next one, she can.” Auntie and Mom share a small laugh.

“There’s a disco ball in there,” I inform Bennett, nodding toward the bucket up front. “I wonder what dancing in the afterlife feels like.”

“Less joint pain probably,” Bennett says, his crooked smile appearing. How I’ve missed that smile.

Our faces glow as the objects go up in flames, the yellow and orange flickers dancing against the ink-black night sky. We watch in silence as the paper funeral offerings are transformed into smoke, a form that escapes the natural world.

Around me, people softly say prayers while the items burn. Smoky strands of Pó Po’s new paper house, bottles of wine, money, food, and clothing float up into the air, swirling and spinning above our heads. I’m overcome with emotion, but this time, it’s with hope. This tradition, the act of honoring ancestors and spirits, is a foreign concept to me, but I find more comfort in it than I would’ve thought possible.

My eyes fill with tears, this time happy ones. The last time I felt this moved was with Bennett at the Getty. I peek over at him, and he looks just as enthralled. He must sense me watching him because his eyes dart over to me.

“I’ve never seen anything like this,” he says quietly. “So the paper is burned…but then where exactly does it go?” He glances toward the paper goods, his eyebrows bent in interest and determination to figure it out.

“To our ancestors in the afterlife,” I say, repeating what I’ve learned from Auntie. I can see how hard Bennett is trying to visualize this concept.

“How do you know if they have everything they need? How do they receive the actual goods?” he asks. “Where is the afterlife, even?”

I give him a small smile. “It’s about believing. I don’t think there are clear-cut answers. It’s kind of like a leap of faith.”

After a moment, Bennett nods and then reaches for his wallet. From behind a few dollar bills, he reveals a small receipt. On it are the words Lead with your heart written in Pó Po’s handwriting.

“What’s that?” I whisper.

“It’s from my first lunch meeting with your Pó Po. After I paid, she wrote this down. I’ve kept it with me ever since, but her words didn’t fully sink in until you taught them to me,” he says. Bennett smiles and looks at the receipt thoughtfully before folding the rectangular slip of paper into a mini ice cream cone. He walks up to the front and drops the paper ice cream into the flames.

I blink my tears away when he returns to me.

“I hope her house comes with a freezer,” he says, nudging me with his shoulder. I soak up his presence, observing his expression as he watches the fire work its magic.